This is a directly worded, very concise post.

https://kirstenlindsmith.wordpress.com/2018/01/16/autism-and-consent/

The only thing I’d add is that while asserting that autistic people can’t understand non-consent is ableist (ridiculously, patently so), what can be difficult is parsing allistic social cues, which are always all over the place, but they’re *really, really* all over the place when it comes to intimacy.

The solution remains the same, though: ask. Always fucking ask.

If that’s still hard to grasp: *all* of the social norms around that (both good and bad) were most likely invented by allistics, over *centuries*, and were almost entirely invented by cishet men regardless, with typically *NO* input from women.

Even queer social norms have some of that BS as well. At the least.

So unless you relish trusting cishet allistic fuckshit that excludes women, and hoping for the best (which won’t happen): ask.

Also, *DO NOT rely on pick up books!* Here’s why.

https://kirstenlindsmith.wordpress.com/2014/02/21/clueless-autism-and-the-pua-community/